Modern-day dating has evolved to primarily take place with a simple swipe to the left or right. You might be left wondering if dating in France is anything like it is in the movies. Let’s leave the mystery right here and reveal what it really is like dating a French guy. Now before I divulge into what you are likely to experience with your French guy, I want to make it clear that this one is for my ladies who are not French. You will find that your experiences might be a little different from your typical French woman. Why? Because you will ooze a certain je ne sais quoi that gives you an alluring appeal.Â
The Accent
First and foremost, can we have a minute of appreciation for the French accent? How is it possible that they can make reading the side effects of constipation medication sound sexy?Â
French is arguably one of the world’s sexiest languages and so easy to fall in love under the spell of the French accent. Whether they are speaking English or French, the rhythm of the words flow in harmony. However, try not to get caught up in the melody of the words. You really should pay attention to what your guy is telling you as simply replying ‘oui’ (yes) to everything might land you in hot water. Â
Compliments
Let’s presume you can get past the accent and actually listen to the words being spoken. In that case, you will appreciate the attention to detail and your guy noticing the effort you make. Did you change your hairstyle? Are you wearing a lovely dress? Did you get your nails done? If you change something about your look, then your French guy is sure to notice. However, compliments won’t be carelessly thrown around one after the other.
To make things even more confusing, receiving a compliment should not be misinterpreted as flirting. My French male friends will show their appreciation as well as giving unsolicited advice regarding my look. “That outfit is really nice but have you considered wearing it with heels?”, “You are pretty, but maybe wearing mascara would make your eyes really pop”. Mastering the game of understanding the difference between compliments and flirting is a natural art form and will keep you on your toes.
The Scenery
A French man is unashamedly proud of his ‘Frenchness’ and what better way to show this pride than by giving you a one on one tour of the beautiful region that he’s from.
You can expect him to know all the great spots from the best bars in town right down to the streets with the most incredible architecture. French men are known as being very charismatic, and it is not hard to wonder why, when the capital, Paris, is known as the city of love. Even outside of Paris, they will use the natural landscape of France as the romantic backdrop to woo you.
Relationship
Do not wait for the question “will you be my girlfriend” as this formality is not very French. You also don’t have to fear having the dreaded conversation of “where is this going”. Unlike other parts of the world when it comes to dating, being coupled up is a somewhat lighthearted affair in France. There will not be a grand gesture, and you might be in a relationship and not even realise it. How is this possible? It all starts with a kiss…
The Kiss
Although you might be eager to experience a French kiss… TAKE. YOUR. TIME! The humble first kiss signifies the start of a relationship. There is no beating around the bush conversation about starting a relationship. There is also no multi-dating past this point. This marks the start of agreeing to exclusively see each other. Are there exceptions to this rule? Of course, just like French grammar, there are certainly exceptions. If you meet at a party or on a dating app where the conversation is only around that subject, be rest assured that nothing serious is intended. A rule of thumb is not to be generous, giving kisses. Especially if you don’t plan on going any further and haven’t communicated this idea, otherwise you my friend are now in a relationship!
Have you had any experience of dating in France or dating a French man? Leave a comment and share your experiences below.
